Over 55 - The Celebration Years - A good reflection of life, past, present and to eternity

It has been a long time I haven't update my blog. Well, busy of my new found job is the reason I can give. This morning, I receive the below email from my 'over 55 years old' friend. After reading it, I found that is it very meaningful. Thus, I take the effort to put it here to share to everyone.


Time is like a river . . .
You cannot touch the same water twice, because the flow has passed and will never pass again. Enjoy every moment of life.

- For those who are already 55, start practicing.
- For those almost 55, get ready.
- For those where 55 is a long way off, help your parents do it.
- For those Over 55 Years Old... Read and get on with celebrating your life!

1. Focus on enjoying people, not on indulging in or accumulating material things.

2. Plan to spend whatever you have saved. You deserve to enjoy it and the healthy years you have left. Travel if you have not done so. Don't leave anything for your children or loved ones to quarrel about. By leaving too much, you may even cause more trouble when you are gone.

3. Live in the here and now, not in the yesterdays and tomorrows. It is only today that you can handle. Yesterday is gone, tomorrow may not even happen.

4. Enjoy your grandchildren (if blessed with any) but don't be their full time baby sitter. You have no moral obligation to take care of them. Don't have any guilt about refusing to baby sit anyone's kids, including your own grandkids. Your parental obligation is to your children. After you have raised them into responsible adults, your duties of child-rearing and babysitting are finished. Let your children raise their own off-springs.

5. Accept physical weakness, sickness and other physical pains. It is a part of the ageing process. Enjoy whatever your health can allow.

6. Enjoy what you are and what you have right now. STOP working hard for what you do not have. If you don't have them, it's probably too late.

7. Enjoy your life with your spouse, children, grandchildren and friends. People, who truly love you, love you for yourself, not for what you have. Anyone who loves you for what you have will just give you misery. And you'd probably know that by now.

8. Forgive and accept forgiveness. Forgive yourself and others. Enjoy peace of mind and peace of soul.

9. Not trying to be morbid, but befriend death. It's a natural part of the life cycle. Don't be afraid of it. Death is the beginning of a new and better life. So, prepare yourself not for death but for a new life towards the realms of eternity.

10. Be at peace with your yourself. You are the children of the universe.

人生格言

Today is the second last day of 2008. Before we said goodbye to 2008 and welcome the new year 2009, I would like to share one last article to end this year.

I just receive below article from my good friend and feel that is worth sharing with everyone. With his permission, I published this in my blog. Hope this will inspire you.

50句精选人生格言

01. 我是最棒的，加油！

02. 没有梦想的人，是最穷的人。

03. 一个人最大的破产是绝望，最大的资产是希望。

04. 不是不可能，只是暂时还没有找到方法。

05. 不为失败找理由，要为成功找方法。

06. 现在的失败未必是一件坏事，它会成为您今后成功的基础。

07. 半路退出游戏的人永远不会胜利。

08. 如果你某方面受到挫折，那只能说明你在哪个方面还不够成熟。

09. 如果你改变不了现实，那么你就得去学会改变自己。

10. 没有天生的信心，只有不断培养的信心。

11. 伟人与别人共处逆境时，别人失去了信心，他却下决心实现自己的目标。

12. 任何的限制，都是从自己的内心开始的。

13. 若不给自己设限，人生中就没有限制你发挥的藩篱。

14. 世界上只有想不通的人，没有走不通的路。

15. 如果你想勇往直前，那么就学会不要对任何东西有依赖。

16. 每一个成功者都有一个开始。勇于开始，才能找到成功的路。

17. 只要路是对的，就不怕路远。

18. 即使爬到最高的山上，一次也只能脚踏实地地迈一步。

19. 当你没有决定要成功时，你就已经决定要失败了。

20. 坚持不代表胜利，但是一直坚持可以胜利。

21. 相信别人不如相信自己, 相信自己不如战胜自己。

22. 最终的胜利者是因为他相信他能。

23. 只有启程，才会到达理想的目的地。

24. 只有拼搏，才会获得辉煌的成功。

25. 只有播种，才能有收获。

26. 只有奋斗，才能品味幸福的人生。

27. 积极思考造成积极人生，消极思考造成消极人生。

28. 积极者相信只有推动自己才能推动世界，只要推动自己就能推动世界。

29. 环境永远不会十全十美，消极的人受环境控制，积极的人却控制环境。

30. 积极的人在忧患中都看到一个机会，而消极的人在每个机会都看到某种忧患。

31. 抱着1小时只能赚10元的想法的人，是不可能1小时赚1000元的。

32. 年轻的时候开始学会付出，等不到老便会得到回报。

33. 当收获的时候就该开始付出，这样才能更好的得到下一次收获。

34. 人生不是大胆冒险，就是一无所获。

35. 人生的一大乐事，就是完成别人说你做不到的事。

36. 你热爱生命吗？那就不要浪费时间，因为生命是由时间组成的。

37. 用爱心做好事业，用感恩的心做人。

38. 以诚感人者，人亦诚而应。

39. 只有知道如何停止的人才知道如何加快速度。

40. 想更快更简单的解决问题，那么就去突破去创新。

41. 怕苦会苦一辈子，不怕苦，只要苦一阵子。

42. 如果你活的很累，那起码你是充实的。

43. 有些事情如果你不想提前去表达，等待你的只能是别人的误会。

44. 出门走好路，出口说好话，出手做好事。

45. 工作没有一个是有前途的，前途是掌握在工作的人手中。

46. 今天你不努力工作，明天你努力找工作。

47. 经营自己的长处，能使你人生增值；经营你的短处，能使你人生贬值。

48. 人生的意义不在于拿一手好牌，而在于打好一手坏牌。

49. 钱追人，人追健康，有了健康，还怕赚不到钱。

50. 有时要学会放弃，才能找到幸福。

How do I stop my negative thoughts?

A Secret Scrolls message from Rhonda Byrne
Creator of The Secret

"How do I stop my negative thoughts?" - is a question that I have been asked many times. If you have ever asked this question then you will feel such enormous relief in knowing the answer, because it is so simple. How do you stop negative thoughts? You plant good thoughts!

When you try to stop negative thoughts, you are focusing on what you don't want - negative thoughts - and you will attract an abundance of them. They can never disappear if you are focused on them. The "stop" part is irrelevant - the negative thoughts are your focus. It doesn't matter if you are trying to stop negative thoughts or control them or push them away, the result is the same. Your focus is on negative thoughts, and by the law of attraction you are inviting more of them to you.

The truth is always simple and it is always easy. To stop negative thoughts, just plant good thoughts! Deliberately plant good thoughts! You plant good thoughts by making it a daily practice to appreciate all the things in your day. Appreciate your health, your car, your home, your family, your job, your friends, your surroundings, your meals, your pets, and the magnificent beauty of the day. Compliment, praise, and give thanks to all things. Every time you say "Thank you" it is a good thought! As you plant more and more good thoughts, the negative thoughts will be wiped out. Why? Because your focus is on good thoughts, and what you focus on you attract.

So don't give any attention to negative thoughts. Don't worry about them. If any come, make light of them, shrug them off, and let them be your reminder to deliberately think more good thoughts now.

The more good thoughts you can plant in a day, the faster your life will be utterly transformed into all good. If you spend only one day speaking of good things and saying "Thank you" at every single opportunity, you will not believe your tomorrow. Deliberately thinking good thoughts is exactly like planting seeds. As you think good thoughts you are planting good seeds inside you, and the Universe will transform those seeds into a garden of paradise. How will the garden of paradise appear? As your life!

May the joy be with you,

Rhonda Byrne
The Secret... bringing joy to billions

Smile with Strangers

Last night I went to clinic to take my usual medication.

I bump into 3 persons:

You know what?

The first person:
The Stranger smile with me as if we know each other.

The second person:
The Nurse wish me good luck and say see you.

The third person:
The familiar face whom we have been working together for past 3 years.... 'see no me'!!!!


Moral of the story:
Stranger are our friends and may be more friendly than whom you know!!!

Winner vs Looser

Winner: Appreciate people’s hardwork
Looser: Is your job!

Winner: Trust people
Looser: Suspect people

Winner: Communicate and listen to ideas and suggestion
Looser: Command people to follow instruction

Winner: Work with me
Looser: Work for me

Winner: Create ideas
Looser: Steal ideas

Winner: Look at big picture and look only at the end results
Looser: Tracks every single hour to see if there is any results

Winner: Consolidate looser weaknesses, turn into winning strength!
Loser: Hold on to his weaknesses and think that is his strength

CHANGE is GOOD!

Let me share with you on the online article which I receive from T Halv Eker recently. I feel that this is worth everyone reading and hope that you can give you some positive thinking!

CHANGE is GOOD!

Article by T Harv Eker

Best-Selling Author of SpeedWealth™ and the world famous Millionaire Mind Seminar, President of Peak Potentials Training.

Sometimes we love change and sometimes we hate it. Regardless, it always takes a little bit of courage to leave something familiar and try something new. Why is change difficult for most of us? Because change necessitates that we move out of our comfort zones.

Since the ego, or protective mind's job is survival, it will always prefer safety and security over the untested and unproven. It likes to keep things the same. It has us believe "the devil I know, is better than the devil I don't know." In short, "if I stay with what I know and what is familiar, I won't get hurt." This belief system is simply not true and goes directly against the laws of nature.

Most people are not totally happy and successful, yet they continue to do the same things over and over hoping someday things will be different. Realize if what you've been looking for was where you've been looking, chances are you'd have already found it! Doing more of the same even harder and longer is not usually the answer. Being willing to change will usually create better results.

Since your inner world creates your outer world, one of the first steps in change, is changing your thoughts. By examining the way you talk to yourself and your beliefs around success, money and prosperity, you are in a position to consciously change any thoughts that are based in lack, fear and limitation. Because what you focus on expands, by intentionally thinking of prosperity, abundance and success you will attract those very things.

Change is natural. The universe is in constant motion, from the changing of the seasons; to the way plants, trees and flowers grow; from the rushing of the rivers, to the wind that blows. Life is always moving, always changing. In fact, the only constant in the world, the only thing you can absolutely count on, is change itself.

Therefore, utilize every change as a gift. Whenever change occurs, ask yourself "how can I use this change to my benefit?" If you lose your job, know that a new and better opportunity awaits you. If you lose a relationship, know that a new and better relationship awaits you.

The happiest and most successful people all share a critical characteristic – the trait of adaptability. Which means they have the ability to quickly adapt to new situations and circumstances. The idea then is to go with the flow and not only accept change, but embrace it as an opportunity to expand yourself and your life.

Life @ Sun Moon Light

During my previous post, I have been mentioning about 'CHANGE'. A lot of people is asking me why I decided to resign.

Well, I have been with an organisation for more than a decade. I have seen everything from the day it started until today. I have received long service award not once, not twice but 3 times!

Why am I leaving this organisation now? Am I not fit for this organisation or the organisation not fit for me?

My answer is 'Life Must Go On!'

"If the road you take have a traffic jam, then find alternative route to continue your journey and reach your destination."

Let me share with you why I choose 'alternative route' to continue my journey.

I should share with you what I have learned here. Most important is what I have learned from someone weaknesses to turn into my strength and opportunity.

Sun Moon Light is a good organisation, however the area where I work has a road block! Every day is a cloudy day and I can't see any sunshine ahead! The situation in my area is like our current political chaos in our country. The head is in a denial stage... together with the management also in a blind stage as if nothing happen.

3 Main points I have pick up which I feel that is very important which the department lack off:

1. Sincere Appreciation

2. Trust

3. Communication

Why people is leaving? Yes.... the answer is 'CHANGE'. But why people want to change? What is the triggering point for people looking for change?
Simple reason... everyone find it hopeless working here. Where is our career path? What is our job security? When a dept head don't trust his people, where is our effort goes to when there is no sincere appreciation? Where is this ship heading when there is no communication?
The ship is heading to hit an iceberg!!!

Just give me one good reason why I should stay on board in this sinking ship?


SINCERE APPRECIATION
What is 'sincere appreciation' means?

It is not by just say default 'thank you' in the email. We want a captain that can work together with us and appreciate us sincerely with the heart by just a simple pad of the shoulder. Appreciation through eye to eye contact and appreciation with human touch or just a simple smile will be good enough.


TRUST
What is 'trust'? Trust is something you leave it to your people and let them do and prove to you that he/she can manage it. Is not by asking one's capability of his ability whether if he can perform the job or not as if you have doubt on his/her achievement.

Trust is to leave the job to the person and wait for the end result then only comment. When the person don't trust his people, he afraid to let his staff to attend training as he got ill feeling that after training, the person will just leave the job. He often secretly cross check with his direct report's subs to get update during the absence of his direct report. Even the newly join staff can feel that something is not right here!


COMMUNICATION
Where is the 'communication within dept'?

The communication that we want is a supervisor that able to talk to us and listen to us.

We want meeting to share and update each other on the department progress. Oh... meeting! Did I just said 'meeting'? I can't recall if he had any of this meeting with us for the past 9 months! I think he know best when is the last meeting he had with us.

We want a boss that can listen to us and communicate to us sincerely. We want 2 way communication and we want a boss that can listen to advise and get good input. He is not this kind of person that can listen to others (except top down direction). He only think what he think is right and we must not reject.

"Mr. Nice Guy"
In the eye of every boss, a 'yes man' is the perfect man! Is a good man! Is a perfect figure because everything is 'yes sir'! In hokkian we said 'tia wa' (Chinese: 听话 means: able to listen to command or instruction). A person that reluctant to change or admit the true fact is a sore loser! A person who cannot listen to others suggestion or advise and feel that what he did is correct will end up losing all his army! The worst thing is his boss is still thinking that he is a perfect guy who has done his job well....

Don't push the responsibility to the immediate supervisor if someone resigns. It has nothing to do with the immediate supervisor. The main reason for a person to resign is overall department matter. Please accept the fact and ask why people resign.

"Head Shine" Theory
We are all human being, we don't work our shit out so that our 'head can shine' and so that head can be promoted than we will be promoted. This is not the way we want our management to appreciate us. All we know that if the fish head is rotten, the cut the head off. If the fish tail is rotten, then cut the tail off so that it won't spread to the whole fish.

The theory of 'boss is our head' and we as a body and we need to work our ass out so that our head can shine is WRONG!

Please wake up.... we are in the 21st century. We don't work for our boss anymore. We only work with our boss. We don't owe our boss anything so we don't work for him. We just work with him if he can work with us as a team. We just work with him because we are salary earner and he is also salary earner too.

If the ship is sinking, boss won't safe our ass... so, what for we need to work for him? We just work together with him. If he cannot perform, means he cannot perform. Not because he is our 'head' and is our responsibility to make him perform so that we can be shine and get appreciated. Hello... there are opportunity outside.... if management cannot see or appreciate our effort, then we will leave and let the management continue to hug the mr. nice guy.

REMEMBER: You must EARN your respect from others. Not others to GIVE you respect!

A puppet who know how to daily check everyone attendance to see who late for work, who didn't turn up for work as if we supervisor are sleeping and allow this to happen.
A puppet who will keep on asking for report to be delivered on time but the report is all just rubbish. A report that asking us to track by hour of what we did daily. How much time we spend for each request, each issue, meetings, etc etc. As if we are writing time sheet like a technician!

A mega project suppose to complete long time ago but until now still straggle working for it to live run! Why??? Just because of a project manager who can't lead the entire team to push for mutual agreed solution to suit our environment! A 'yes man' who blindly listens without even has brain to propose for the best solution. Take my words, by the time mega project turn live, the application as well as the hardware will be EOL in the market!

Ok... That's all I have to share. Want to know more? Treat me coffee bean and we can talk it all night!

"The truth about leaving is everyone has to leave one way or another, the question is who leave first"

David Goh... author of "The Day the Eagle Took Off"